Ok, all you moms out there. I'm needing a little advice/help.
You see, B didn't take the pacifier and so I'm not so sure what to do about S's "HABIT." She's almost 16 months now.
When do I WEAN her of it?
Pros and cons?
I've heard to wean them around 2 yrs, but then sometimes they drop a nap with it (and I REALLY need nap time!). She doesn't sleep or nap as well or as long as B does NOW (at age 3 1/2!) so I was thinking maybe if she wasn't always depending on that dang thing, she would.
Well, we couldn't find a paci with her clip and you know I'm NOT going in there when she can't find it or throws it out. So I just thought, fine, we'll see how she does without one. I "put her down" last night without it and she slept just fine. So I tried again today and she cried a little for naptime today. But settled down so far. At bedtime it was a bit more of a drama. But, I'm trying to stick to my guns. I hear it's easier the younger they are.
E and I are having a "discussion" over it.
Please comment.
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Are you serious? That sounds like a dream that you took it away and she slept just fine. I would say do it then. The "experts" say it's easier to take away the younger they are.
P.S. Aubrey still has her pacifier and she almost three.
I agree the younger, the better. We took Ashley's away at 18 months. She wasn't one of those children who had to have it at all times though. I first took it from her at naptime. When she did just fine with that, i took it from her at bedtime. It was just removed from the bedtime routine. Sometimes it helps if they are REALLY gone. Out of sight, out of mind. Ashley did fine when we took hers. Sounds like S did just fine without it! That is great! I wish I had better advice for you! So hard bc every child is different! Go for it, I say! The longer you wait, the harder it will be! Good luck!
we took evan's away at 16th...long story, we didn't mean to but we lost it and decided to go w/ it. it was nice cause he was young enough he didn't really know. took a few nights to get used to, but he was still in a crib so he couldn't really go anywhere.
calder was like 3 and it was much harder. she was in a bed by then and would kick the door and scream cause she wanted her binky.
nolan still has his for now 18 mo, we've been thinking of taking it from him? the worst part is church and u have to take them out more cause they still get so loud.
we didn't have issues w/ nap time when they stopped getting their binky
At 1 we take it away during the day and give it just at nap time and night time. At 2 we take it away altogether. We poke holes in them so that they don't work the same way. M just didn't want it after that. It took one night of tears but that was it.
GOOD LUCK :)
I dreaded taking Taya's pacifier away b/c I thought it was going to be a huge deal on her part - she seemed so addicted! We had always tried to keep it to nap time & bed time only, but it had become more than just those two times anyhow. So then Paul had the idea to get her to use it for sleeping time only that whenever she asked for it, we would tell her it must be nap time (or bed time) and that she could have it if she wanted to go to her crib ... Sometimes she did this and sometimes she wasn't interested. Took a little while, but worked really well for no use outside of nap & bed time.
Then when we took it away a few months later all together, it started by accident (but I had already been wanting to). A ward friend was babysitting her & I had accidentally forgotten to pack one (I never did this) - so she told Taya there wasn't one & Taya shockingly went down just fine (so it seemed to help that it came from a babysitter the first time or two). So then that night we told her we lost the pacifiers and it worked again (with a very small fight - she was already in a bed by this time too & is strong willed btw). We kept it up each day after that until after almost a week, she was done! It did become a little bit more of a fight for a few days following, but we had to stay consistent. She would ask for one every now and then after that, but it was no big deal for her.
We had tried cutting the tip off and everything, but she never bought that & would just get ticked & throw it down.
Sorry to be so long, but maybe one of those ideas will help!
Sounds like she's already kind of going for it & with your consistency, may be done by another week from now!
My personal thoughts were that a pacifier for calming was okay for sleep until no later than age 3 (or when it might really be messing with the teeth), but that if it was day time use & intruding with speech, that was my absolute limit.
Sorry for the essay!!
We took Julia's away a little before she was two. Probably 22 months or so. It was rough for a couple of days and she had a hard time calming down but then it was fine. She didn't drop her nap either which was nice, but i know every child is different so good luck!
Molly was VERY attached even though she only got to have it at bedtime and naptime. I had to hide them so she couldn't get it during the day. We took it away around 18 mo. I cut off the end and told her it was broken so she threw it in the trash. I was surprised at how easy it was for her to get over it. Only took one or two days, but now she is hooked on her blankie and she bites it. Good luck. The great thing about kids is no matter when or what you decide, she will be fine :)
How's it going? We also took it away at 18 months, but before 12 months we start to only use during nap/sleep time. I say if she is going for it, GREAT...the earlier the better.
I stop going in at night to put binky back in just in the last few months with my baby (I did this with the other 3).
I let them keep the binky through naps- we have a special place for it for my 3 year-old. I plan to get rid of it when he drops naps-this is what I did with my twins and it worked great. . . .so, yeah, my 3 year old still uses one during naptime.
I have a friend who has a bye-bye binky party when their kids turn 2 or 3 (can't remember which). She throws a party and then has the child throw the binky out with the trash.
I found that the binkie goes when it becomes more work than help (Bella kept throwing it in the car or out of her crib ect.)
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